Tobi Hill-Meyer says on her blog, “When trans women are told that they are politically ignorant when they object to trans men ‘reclaiming’ a derogatory term that has been used specifically against trans women and not against trans men, that’s transm…

One of the more acceptable versions of ‘yum, trans guys’ that was psychological rather than physically based that I’ve heard was about brave men being hot, and conscious, hard fought manhood being hot.

Which is something I have to agree with generally…bravery and conviction are sexy.

Oliver

Good god damn, that’s nice to have someone say. I get tired of people, especially trans people, saying that anyone who finds a pre/non-op trans woman hot is doing it because he likes the guys, which brings me to point two:

“I am a lesbian. I am a tranny chaser. Transwomen are hot. I prefer the femme ones.”

Oliver and Orion, you two make me feel very good about myself and desirable-in-the-right-way.

Sincerely,

a lesbian struggling out of involuntary drag.

I give you this example to broaden your horizons so that you dont make statments such as the following:

“I’m sorry, but being called transphobic, sexist, homophobic, racist, etc may hurt but it’s nothing like the impact that sexist, homophobic, racist, transphobic, etc behavior can have. The discomfort of being called out for oppressive behavior does not make up for the pain that behavior caused. Being called out for an ism is not about revenge, punishment, or public shaming”

Straight male trannychasers, even while identifying as straight, still often engage in gender denial. It’s when they come onto you with lines like “I think girls like you are even hotter than regular girls, it’s because you have to put more effort into it,” or “All the regular girls have become feminists and don’t put any effort into pleasing a man anymore, that’s what I like about t-girls.”

Not to mention that the creepy hetero men chasers don’t always have the best of manners on their own. I’ve been propositioned in the street, non-consensually felt up in a bar, and asked out by strangers who got my email fron a news article — and I’m a dyke and avoid straight men as best I can (okay, I’m a pandyke, but the guys I’m into have to be queer and not clueless chasers).

Then the exotification, I’ve been thinking of writing another post just focusing on that. It’s the creation of an exotic and novel image of what trans folks are supposed to be like, falling for that image, then projecting that image onto the trans folks you meet even when it doesn’t fit. I don’t mind if folks are attracted to my bits, but if they love the idea of 8″ standing tall and exploding with a half gallon of cum, if they want to feel the hero by validating trans women’s genders through sex with a straight man, then they’re not really attracted to me, but their own deluded stereotypes of what I might be like, and as long as I’m not going to fulfill that, it won’t be fun for anyone.

If someone who actually wants to be with a man and is comfortable with admitting it feels like coming up to me and saying ‘Dude, men with extra holes are hot, wanna fuck?’ then I’m cool with that. Its…how the gay men’s community works, to a certain extent, at least for short term hookups, and if trans became just another type along with twinks, bears, cut, uncut, skins etc etc

But when someone dyke who wouldn’t touch an actual guy with a bargehole (an interestingly versatile sentence, I know) goes off on one about how ‘butch+1′ is so fucking hot I want to scrape out her eyes with a spoon.

Its not the objectification, its the idea that this trait of being trans deserves more attention than a fairly shallow interest in novelty, or a liking for the physical acts that might be possible.

Because that’s all it is to me. Being trans doesn’t make me a decent feminist, a safer man to accept a ride home from, a perfect gentleman or a more sensitive lover. It just means that I’m in the statistically unusual position of having a dick and a cunt, and if that’s relevant to someone’s interests then fabulous.

At least the straight male tranny chasers who look at even the worst ’she-male’ porn out there will tell you (often quite defensively) that it doesn’t make them gay.

Yes, they still have the politeness and tact of a concussed boar at a frat party, but they’re usually comfortable admitting that they like women, and that fancying transwomen is a part of that.

When did creepy hetero men start outranking right on, politically aware lesbians on taking transpeople’s genders seriously? What the fuck is with that?